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Welcome to this new upgrade for your brain!
Today’s upgrade will focus on developing its ability to Ask for Help 🧠

All you need to do is open your mind, and enjoy the following enhancement of yourself!

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Cognitive Pulse

 Brain warming up

Get inspired by a quote

Get doubtful about a question

What is a common barrier to seeking assistance?
A) Pride
B) Lack of resources
C) Both A and B
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Neuronal Activation

Ability explanation, and why you must develop it.

What are we talking about?

ℹ️ - Seeking help is not a testament to your inadequacy but a bold step towards growth. The harsh truth is that pride often blinds us to this, leaving us isolated in struggles that could be shared, lessened, or even solved with humility and the courage to ask.

💪 - Enhancing your ability to seek help effectively unlocks doors to deeper knowledge, fosters collaboration, and builds resilience. Mastering this skill is transformative, encouraging personal growth and stronger connections.

Not-so-random facts

1. Psychological Safety: Teams with high psychological safety, where members feel safe to ask for help, show higher levels of creativity and innovation.

2. Social Learning Theory: This theory suggests that observing others ask for help can encourage individuals to do the same, highlighting the importance of modeling behavior.

3. Dunbar's Number: This theory posits that humans can maintain stable social relationships with about 150 people, within which asking for and offering help is a key component.

4. The Bystander Effect: In larger groups, individuals are less likely to ask for or offer help due to the diffusion of responsibility, highlighting the importance of direct requests.

5. The Sunk Cost Fallacy: Sometimes, individuals may hesitate to ask for help due to the sunk cost fallacy, fearing that admitting the need for help negates their previous efforts.

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Skill Encoding

 Deeper dive into the skill, with actionable learning materials.

The Right Way to Ask for Help at Work | Harvard Business Review

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We’re often reluctant to ask for help because of the social threats involved—uncertainty, risk of rejection, potential for diminished status, and relinquishment of authority. But without support from others, it’s virtually impossible to advance in your career. And studies show that most people are surprisingly willing to lend a hand—if you ask in the right way.

Takeaways

• Overcome Reluctance: Recognize that people are generally more willing to assist than you might expect, and asking directly can significantly increase your chances of receiving help.

• Focus on Benefits: When asking for help, highlight the emotional and psychological benefits for the helper, making it a positive experience rather than a burden.

• Avoid Negative Language: Steer clear of language that implies obligation or trivializes the request. Phrases that suggest indebtedness or minimize the need for help can deter potential supporters.

• Employ Positive Reinforcements: Use cues that foster a sense of belonging, acknowledge the unique ability of the helper to provide assistance, and express gratitude to enhance their positive identity.

• Emphasize Effectiveness: Make sure helpers understand the impact of their support, providing clear details on how their help will contribute to the desired outcome.

• Follow Up: Show appreciation for the help received and share the outcomes, reinforcing the value of their contribution and the difference it made.

25 Ways to Ask for Help That Actually Work (and Aren’t Scary)

Concept
Reaching out for support is crucial for mental well-being, yet it's often hindered by stigma and fear of vulnerability. This guide demystifies the process, offering practical strategies for seeking assistance across different contexts—personal, casual, and professional.

Takeaways

• Embrace Vulnerability: Acknowledge that it's okay to not be okay and that reaching out is a strength, not a weakness.

• Direct Communication: Be clear and upfront about your feelings and what you need help with. It's better to express your struggles directly than to suffer in silence.

• Use Specific Examples: When initiating a conversation for help, using specific phrases can make it easier to express your needs and feelings.

• Professional Approach: In work settings, maintaining composure while asking for help is crucial. Phrasing requests in a professional manner can facilitate the support you need without compromising your workplace dignity.

• Overcoming Stigma: Recognize that fear of judgment or feeling like a burden can hinder asking for help, but overcoming these can lead to meaningful support and connection.

• Adapting to Situations: Tailor your approach based on the context—whether it's a personal, low-stakes, or professional scenario, there are different ways to seek help effectively.

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Skill Persistence

Additional insightful content, and knowledge test.

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Additional Resources

Ted Talk - How to ask for help, and get a "yes" | Heidi Grant
Asking for help is tough. But to get through life, you have to do it all the time. So how do you get comfortable asking? In this actionable talk, social psychologist Heidi Grant shares four simple rules for asking for help and getting it -- while making the process more rewarding for your helper, too.

Ted Talk - Asking for help is a strength, not a weakness | Michele L. Sullivan
We all go through challenges -- some you can see, most you can't, says Michele L. Sullivan. In a talk about perspective, Sullivan shares stories full of wit and wisdom and reminds us that we're all part of each other's support systems. "The only shoes you can walk in are your own," she says. "With compassion, courage and understanding, we can walk together, side by side."

Article - 4 Tips to Effectively Ask for Help, and Get a Yes
Achieving success often involves seeking help, yet many fear the vulnerability it entails. Effective strategies include clear communication, avoiding apologies, making requests personal, and not focusing on reciprocity. Acknowledging and sharing the impact of received help can further enhance collaboration and the sense of community.

Book - Go To Help: 31 Strategies to Offer, Ask For, and Accept
Go To Help will teach you concrete strategies to get better at offering, asking for, and accepting help. You’ll gain practical insights to help yourself and others get more done with less stress and longer-lasting success.

Article - Asking for Help | WikiHow

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Quiz

Introduction question answer:
What is a common barrier to seeking assistance? 👉 C) Both A and B

Explanation: Pride can often prevent individuals from admitting they need help, and a lack of available resources can make it difficult to find assistance when needed.

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